Grudges Hurt You

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Sooner or later someone will do or say something that upsets you to the point that you cannot forget the incident. That is how a grudge develops. Nursing a grudge does not make it better, and the longer we carry it, the more of a problem it becomes. Grudges simply do not belong in one who strives to have a good attitude toward life and eternity. Paul wrote that a bishop is not to be an angry person, but a person of self-control (Titus 1:7-8). Paul also wrote that anger will come, but when it does, we are to be careful not to allow it to bring sin (Ephesians 4:26).

Paul went on to say to “put off” things like anger and therefore a grudge (Colossians 3:8). We cannot always resolve the cause of anger or a grudge, but we can “put it on the shelf” by leaving it with God. We can meditate on the grudge and learn how much we hurt ourselves by feeding it. We can take steps to resolve that which we perceive as a hurt done to us and we can simply avoid the person that brings these strong feelings up in us. Most important is the need to face and handle the grudge—don’t let it grow. Take action.

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  • suewilliams

    Anger can raise your blood pressure and cause you to be more tense in general. I often think of Nabal (Abigail's husband) who had what sounds like a stroke when he found out that Abigail had taken food to David. Once I was taking a blood pressure at work and the patient had what sounded like 120/80 (normal blood pressure) but during the blood pressure he became angry and I heard it skyrocket to over 200 systolic! That was a lesson for me. What could be worth that kind of risk to my health. I found that when I had a particular boss that was difficult , I had more problems with pain. After she retired, what I thought was arthritis disappeared. Maybe that is why we hear the expression inflamed with anger. Thank you for this wonderful article. This is something I have been think about lately as I am trying to change my thoughts to more positive ones.

  • Robert Berendt

    Thank you Nick and Kathy - in a very short note, obvious much (most) must be left unsaid and it is hoped readers will be stimulated to study further. Jesus went on in Matt.5:48 to say we are to become "perfect just as your Father in heaven is perfect." That leaves much to contemplate. God forgives when repentance is clear and some are never forgiven their sins (Heb.6:6). Lots to learn and think about - with His guidance.

  • KARS

    Thank you Mr. Berendt. It goes much deeper than that. The hurt, grudge, pain, memories of the past (that have been held within for a long, long, time) can creep up on you one day. Especially if you are fighting some sort of depression (ex. Job and Jeremiah wished that they hadn't been born. Job 3:3; Jeremiah 20:14 ). It will eat at your mind, heart, emotions, and health. Which sends one into a darken state of woes. One must get rid of the hurt, grudge, anger and so forth quickly. Like you said Nick; Forgive. By forgiving with prayers to God our Father for help, we can overcome the negative emotions and thoughts so God can bring us back to; peace of mind and heart. Thus bringing us back to a healthier mental and physical state. Thank you Mr. Berendt and Nick for the scripture reminders. Have a lovely Sabbath day. Peace

  • nkthgreek

    We are also to forgive the individual (Mat. 6:14, 15). We can know we have done so we when can fulfill what Jesus Christ exhorted us to do in Mat. 5:43 and 44, no longer feeling the pain of the hurt .

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