“Faithful are the wounds of a friend, but the kisses of an enemy are deceitful” (Proverbs 27:6). A friend finds it hard to say anything that might hurt a friend, but is willing to do so if it is for the long-term benefit of his or her friend. God loves mankind and corrects His children (Hebrews 12:6). He shows us how loving parents ought to correct those they love when that is needed.

Cruel blows from enemies are only designed to inflict pain and suffering upon us. That sort of brutality and cruelty usually springs from hard-heartedness and weakness. The blows of a friend may seem cruel, but they lead to health and a better life. Knowing the difference lets us respond correctly. Pain can be positive.