Most people like to be flattered because the image they have of themselves is usually larger than life. The object of flattering someone is usually interwoven with an expectation of gain on our part. People often reject the truth because it causes pain, directs us to change and points out our errors. Most people want to avoid hearing an assessment of their errors and find change very hard to do. Truth often goes unnoticed when it demands that we change.

There is such a thing as honest and true praise. It cannot be bought and ought to be freely given from others and not from ourselves (Proverbs 27:2). Good friends take the risk of speaking truth. Speaking thus is not an easy thing to do, but it is the right thing to do and can be helpful when given in the right manner and the right time (Proverbs 27:6). Flattery is not honest and is like the “kisses of an enemy.” True intent is readily concealed when using the tool of flattery. It is a tool best left in its drawer.